Carole, congratulations on the 17 pound - 9 year milestone.
I know about the "happily married" and "unhappily married" weights, too.
Your goals have a solid ring to them... I am certain that you will make it. I love reading the stories of people who have gotten to their goal and all the physical problems that have disappeared and of the medications they were able to go off.
You will be one of those heroes, too!
Feeling a little philosophical, too, tonight.... am seeing a LOT of what goes around comes around.