Was very depressed today

[Sunny_0ne]

I moped around in a funk all day. I had replied to a newbie post and instead of being helpful, as I intended, I apparently really offended the poster.

I wish I didn't let things like that bother me so much, but they do. Anyway, I vowed that I will leave the newbie's questions to people who aren't so direct and have better (more gentle) teaching skills.

Then we went shopping. I needed to get some new pajamas for a pajama party Friday (imagine--a pajama party at 60 years old!) Unfortunately, the only ones I liked were a lot more expensive than I wanted to spend on something I (hopefully) can't wear much longer. But I really want to go to the party, so I bit the bullet and bought them.

I also got a really nice new shoulder bag (that I can still use when I am thin), so that helped a little.

But I was also very bloated today... probably due to over-exercising and the stressed muscles retaining water. I started having those "I'm never going to lose the weight" thoughts, but refused to follow that train of thought.

Then we went Atkins grocery shopping and I got the ingredients for Linda's low carb taco salad.

It took a while to put it together as I had to make the seasoning mix and the guacamole. But WOW!!!!!!! Was it ever worth it. It was delicious--and non-dieting hubby thought so, too!!!

That lifted my spirits back to normal, and it sure does feel good to feel good again!

I am beginning to acknowledge that I am one of those people who will lose weight very slowly on the program. After my weigh-in Saturday morning I will re-evaluate my food choices. I am hoping that I don't have to cut out cream, cream cheese and cheese, but will cross that bridge when I come to it.

[guekjian]

Must be the full moon or something! At least you discovered a new recipe and you got yourself a treat! I would say that is plenty of reason to be happy again...and about people getting offended...he/she was probably in the throes of induction flu so don't take it personally! You are wonderful to care enough to post and answer..that's all that counts ok! Have a great day tomorrow and all the other days...

[Desertthorn]

Sunny, I've been posting on this board for a loooong time and often say one thing and the person reading it, takes it completely different. I am particularly bad because I often tease and kid folks, and in person folks know what I am doing, but in back and white, it doesnt work.
Besides, they really need folks to welcome others. I even complained to the boss last month cause no one was doing it. I don't know why . Its a shame and if you leave, it will be worse. So please, please please, come back to Spotlight and tell em like it is. You couldn't hurt anyones feelings....and some folks want the truth and those that don't, don't belong here.

[Sunny_0ne]

Besides, they really need folks to welcome others. I even complained to the boss last month cause no one was doing it. I don't know why . Its a shame and if you leave, it will be worse. So please, please please, come back to Spotlight and tell em like it is. You couldn't hurt anyones feelings....and some folks want the truth and those that don't, don't belong here.

Desertthorn, you don't know how much that post helped.

Above all, I want to welcome and encourage the newbies. It makes such a difference when you receive a warm welcome on a new board.

I was afraid I might be negatively affecting the positive, supportive aspect by stomping on some obtuse toes.

So, in light of your post, I will continue to welcome the newbies, and will answer serious questions to the best of my (limited) ability. And be VERY conscientious about trying to word my replies in the most helpful, supportive manner possible.

Thank you so much for your reply.

[hopejoy]

Sunny, you're so sweet. Just reading your posts brightens my day.

It's really weird that you're going to a pajama party too on Friday night... I am too at my church... it's a lady's 'lock in'. I'm not spending the night though because I can never sleep anywhere but my own bed and I don't want to get sick.

liz

[michelle martinez]

sunny,,i have been on plan since 1-7 09,,and you have answered alot of my questions,,, i love your input,,and i want you to continue,, your great. sometimes people are hurt by the truth. but its better then a lie to make them feel better. straight forward is the best way,,i love all of the experts on here,,you and elizellen are my favorites,,,please dont be depressed over something that you were only trying to helpwe love you

[Sunny_0ne]

Liz and Michelle, I am almost in (happy) tears at your posts. Amazing how support can come through so beautifully in words on a board.

Thank you, both!!!

Liz, I am not going to stay overnight at the party, either. But I am so looking forward to being together with the girls. I live a very quiet life out in the country, so any kind of social event is a biggie to me!

Michelle, thank you so much, but I am far from an expert. To put me up there with lizellen is an impossible stretch!!! I've just read the book and tried to learn as much as I can so I can stay on track (most of the time!) and if it helps others, I am delighted.

Thanks again... and hugs to both of you!

[ShaGio]

Hi Sunny,
I know which post to which you are referring and I don't think you were at all offensive. If anything I think you were trying to get the "newbie" to look at the choices that were being made and honestly get on program.
As guekjian was saying Don't take it personal keep telling the truth even if it's not always welcome and have fun at your PJ Party!!

[Sunny_0ne]

Thank you, ShaGio, and big hugs to you, too!

[sallyseachange]

to you Sunny! Sorry to hear you were in the doldrums, but glad you're feeling happier now. We all have our ups and downs and you did the right thing in posting here.

Please don't abandon the newbies! They need to feel welcome, as Desertthorn said. You are always so supportive and nice! We all appreciate you a great deal in Spotlight!
Don't worry if sometimes people read posts in a way they weren't intended... it happens easily.

Enjoy the pajama party!