[sugarsack]

probably not a popular opinion.. however you owe it to your kids to try it... try being the wife you'd want to have if you were a man... i am a fan of dr Laura and before you dismiss my advice based on that.. listen to what she says 99% of the time.. fake it until you make it ... even if you dont "feel" it.. act like the wife you'd want to come home to... be loving, be kind, be attentive... the jealosy may be the manifestation of his fear of losing you .. obviously you dont stay where theres abuse, however you mentioned nothing about that.. so give him no reason to be jealous.. show him the love and attention you;d want to have.. and he just may reciprocate.. your kids will only be happy when mom and dad are loving toward eachother...