So Ashamed!!!

[luvtranscendsall]

I messed up today and it wasn't just because it was Halloween. I got up and flew out the house without eating breakfast. I hadn't eaten all day. I have been feeling a little messed up I guess from the Induction Flu (which I never had before). I went swimming with my kids at the gym's pool because they also had a Halloween party. I took them trick or treating and I was fighting so hard to be good. We walked a long ways trick or treating and then I gave in. I was so irritable and hungry and I couldn't find anything low carb. I gave in and got some McDonald's and then I ate some candy. I am going to go back on tomorrow. I need to stock my fridge anyways. its a miracle I made it four days because I was not equipped like I should of have been. I just feel like I messed it all up so whats the point because what am going to do when Thanksgiving or Christmas comes. I feel really depressed like I should just throw it all out the window like I don't even deserve to post on here anymore. Well thank you for letting me vent.

[atkinsgal08]

Well ... you listed many things that you did "wrong".

Now you have to have a plan so that those things don't get repeated.

[liv]

Don't feel that bad. It is not productive. You have to look forward from this moment on wards. So start now (right now ) The reality is none of us are perfect but we only fail if we do not get up and get back on the wagon right away. So great that you came here and got it out of the system.
BTW it is OK to eat at McD - just make the right choices - salads, burger without the bun etc.

[EverLosing]

Originally Posted by luvtranscendsall

I feel really depressed like I should just throw it all out the window like I don't even deserve to post on here anymore. Well thank you for letting me vent.

WHAT the heck is that??? Um, maybe you aren't clear on this but you're here hanging out with a bunch of losers, remember?! I think we've all fallen down.

Here, I'll share some of my crappy truth. I weigh 162 pounds right now. Guess what? I weigh now exactly what I weighed on July 10th of this year. I am today what I was that day but it's been over 3.5 months. Now, during that time I lost 2 grandparents. My crap job began to fall apart. I was mourning the loss of my 3.5 year relationship and the deaths of 3 grandparents since December. I was TWO pounds away from goal. TWO. T-W-O!!! That's it. My grandfather's death in July was a complete and total shock, terribly unexpected and dramatic. Got off plan for a bit. Gained. Got back on. Lost but SLOWLY. My grandmother was in the dying process and I basically moved into her hospital bed. Off plan I went relying on sugar and caffeine to get me through taking care of her the last 2 weeks. Gained. Back on plan. Lost slowly and knew it was because you can't abuse the plan. Now, factor this in. Several times peppered in there....gasp, in addition to these pitfalls, I CHEATED. I curled up into an emotional ball and I ate more cereal than I'd care to admit. Maybe a dessert at a fancy restaurant after I had managed to custom order and eat a legal meal!!! What? Yep. My uncle has been coming to town back and forth as he is the executor of the estate and he loves to take us out for a big yummy meal. I've lied to myself and told myself I "deserve" a free meal or weekend. No, I didn't deserve anything else except screaming out GOAL!!!!! at the top of my lungs! So with all this on plan, off plan, oh crap, here I go again, you know WHAT??? I have LOST OVER 100 POUNDS since last Christmas!!! Goal was 72 pounds. I have lost over 100 but STILL haven't managed to hit my goal weight. So, if you think your little candy/hot chocolate/fast food incident makes you unworthy of posting here, then I guess I should be shot!! Sometimes victory is defined by how many times you fell down vs. how many time you got up. So, c'mon, get up. Let's go do this thing!!

[chinadoll]

Okay, so you found out your willpower isn't iron and your planning skills suck. Welcome to the club. But feeling sorry for yourself and saying poor me, why do I bother isn't going to do you any favors.

Take this episode and learn from it. Do better next time. That should be your mantra. You are going to have times when temptation proves too great, or life interferes. Just because you screwed up yesterday doesn't mean you are going to do the same at Thanksgiving or Christmas unless you let it happen. Now you know to plan and prepare ahead. SO Focus on making sure you do that as the holiday season approaches.

I mean your alternative is what? Leave plan, gain back an additional 5 to 10 before Thanks giving and pack on another 10 over the holidays? Not much of a plan and it certainly won't make you feel better about yourself.

One of the biggest lessons to learn here is to not beat yourself up. Why? because when you feel like you messed up you feel like you aren't worth the effort and that's when you cave. SO forgive yourself, next time go to McD and get two quarter pounders and take them off the buns, or don't leave the house hungry in the first place. Get back on TODAY and consider this a day's setback - thats all.

Repeat after me: I am worth this. I will do better next time.

[SouLThinKing]

Hey RESTART is like one of my names I think. I almost wrote it on a check the other day. But hey I did restart and give up.

[Ohbehave007]

Hey you know what...everyone falls. Don't feel bad because that will make it worse. I haven't been the picture perfect Atkiner either. I have been sick through most of October and you know what...I am up a few pounds...SO WHAT. I would get back on plan, get back to 155lbs and then get sick again so I stumble for the crackers.

If you can get up right away and keep going. If your body needs more time then so be it. All in good time. Just focus on your goal and you can do anything you set your mind to...tomorrow is always a new day. (Shall I go on phrasing ).

[Joanner]

I started induction on October 1. I fell off the wagon one day, got back on, and today, November 1, I am down 13 pounds.

So start back on induction and don't look back as a being a failure.

[Georgiana]

Originally Posted by luvtranscendsall

I just feel like I messed it all up so whats the point because what am going to do when Thanksgiving or Christmas comes.

Eating on plan should not be a problem during holidays. It's the difference between dieting and changing your way of eating forever.

Thanksgiving and Christmas are not all about food. Yes, they are special days, but it should not be food that makes them special. Time spent with family and friends is time better spent than eating. And you CAN spend time with your loved ones without planning everything around food.

How you spend your holidays, and what and how much you eat during that time is your choice, not something that should be imposed by family traditions.

Start planning and choose to stick with your plan.

This was posted by Dreamof145, a former ADBB moderator, a few years ago:

Importance of Planning to Succeed

by Dreamof145

Making a plan doesn’t have to be a scary thing. It is essential for us in anything we want to accomplish. Don’t make a plan that is unattainable. Make one that you can live with comfortably with changes that will help you succeed in reaching your goal.

Weight loss isn’t going to happen overnight. Don’t expect every weigh to show large drops in numbers. Measuring periodically will allow you to SEE the difference you are making regardless of what the scale says. This must be a lifetime commitment. Adopt eating and physical activity habits that can become part of your lifestyle. *(You can always change or update your plans to accommodate issues in your life)
Have backup plans for days that challenge you with issues that happen outside your normal daily routine.
I've made plans ahead of time with recipes, lists of foods, places and ideas and have them in an envelope in my file cabinet marked: PLANS
No matter what comes up, I can reach inside and pull out a plan to get through “it” without worry.
*barbecues, weddings, hospital visits, trips, dinner invites, hostess to dinner guests, parties, pot-lucks, holidays, birthday parties, office parties, moving, conferences, seminars, or vacations have all been accounted for.)
There are no excuses for not exercising or eating properly. You don’t have to go out in a storm to get exercise. Pop in an exercise video, play music and dance or walk in place. If you had to do it for another member of your family or for your work-place…you’d make the time to do it. You are worth the effort & just as important as anyone else.
If you take care of YOU…then you’ll feel good about yourself which reflects a positive attitude and helps you gain self-confidence. Positive attitudes improve everything we do and creates healthier relationships with family, friends and employers.

[Mick2360]

Hey Luv, You have received some wonderful responses. I'll add just one thing. Shame can be a useful emotion but, in my experience, only in the most drastic arenas of behavior. If i may, I'd suggest that you be just a tad gentle with yourself, get up and move forward. We have all fallen short at one time or another. Learn the lesson and move forward. And I need to add that I have been just where you are at. The difference being that we are now surrounded by a group of ADBB people who will assist, cajole, suggest the little changes that will allow us to transform ourselves.

Take it easy.

Mick