Single again :(
Posted October 21st, 2009 at 11:11 AM by stephbob
Life is just not working out right now. After all the problems I had 2 weeks ago, my fiance broke up with me last night. This happened 3 years ago, we got back together after a while and things were going to well, but he just says he doesn't want this relationship anymore, doesn't want me, doesn't want to think about settling down, getting married or having kids until much later in life.
I feel so beat up over it. I've forgiven him for so much over the years, and while I respect the fact that he wants something different to me, I'm so hurt over it because he's everything I want, and I've proved that time and time again.
I've tried to keep on track, but my eating pattern has been non-existent, so I've lost a few pounds through lack of eating. Now is the time to get back on track for me, start thinking about myself.
I hate uncertainty, and my future looks so empty right now without him.
I feel so beat up over it. I've forgiven him for so much over the years, and while I respect the fact that he wants something different to me, I'm so hurt over it because he's everything I want, and I've proved that time and time again.
I've tried to keep on track, but my eating pattern has been non-existent, so I've lost a few pounds through lack of eating. Now is the time to get back on track for me, start thinking about myself.
I hate uncertainty, and my future looks so empty right now without him.
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I am sorry to hear about all of that. Time heals all wounds. Just take it one day at a time and if that is too much just take it a minute a time.
Hang in there.Posted October 21st, 2009 at 11:30 AM by Its just me
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Ouch... yeah the break-up diet isn't too healthy and not much fun. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and be gentle with yourself. You're in our thoughts and prayers. xoxoxPosted October 21st, 2009 at 02:34 PM by Suzanne_H -
Sweety, know exactly where you are coming from. The best thing you CAN do right now is to refocus all that energy that you spent on him and your future with him on yourself! Get yourself into a place you want to be, healthy, slim, focus on your career until you are completely happy with that. Sometimes ending a relationship is the kick in the pants you need to reclaim your life.
Its so hard to give up on those dreams and plans we make when we're with someone, but ending the relationship with him doesn't mean those dreams are out the window...just postponed until you find a replacement for him. And you will find one, when you are ready. Trust me...ended a 4 year relationship and moved to DC on a whim. Within a month I met my soul mate and we're getting married in the spring...but I felt exactly how you feel now. Empty, clueless, aimless, unsure, insecure, angry, lonely....but if you channel that into focusing on making YOU better, making YOU the YOU that you want to be, just imagine where you could be in just a few months' time!
YouPosted October 21st, 2009 at 03:07 PM by bellajgw - Ack....system sent my comment and I wasn't ready!
You can do this hun, you absolutely can! It will get better, every day, it will get easier. Promise!
HUGS!!!!Posted October 21st, 2009 at 03:07 PM by bellajgw -
Hey!
Don't be down, its going to get a whole lot better for you.. By the sounds of it he wasnt the right guy anyway.
Take it from a mans man.. There are PLENTY of guys who would jump at the opportunity move heaven and earth to make a girl like you happy.
I know it hurts and feels alien right now, but trust me, I have been where you are and the feelings can be so consuming, but it WILL pass, your future will be brighter for what your going through now.
Looking through your blog posts, you posted a job vacancy with a big salary... Well every member of this board already has the position of your personal motivator.. I am just one of them..
So there is just one question.. your not going to fall off the wagon are you?? No? Good.. because if you do, you will be letting us all down!!
In the weeks when someone here stalls, if you loose even a tiny bit, it becomes part of the puzzle which motivates the staller through the rough patch.
We are here for you girl.. please stay with us and be here for us too!
And lastly.. smile!Posted October 21st, 2009 at 07:20 PM by sarbirus -
Great advice everyone!! Put yourself first instead of everyone else. Focus on you. You deserve it.
We are all here for you.Posted October 21st, 2009 at 09:20 PM by my31168 -
Thank you everyone, I'm so lucky to have such a great support network!
I'll do another post at some point, but I just still feel terrible right now. But things are getting easier with each new day. I'm down to 160 lbs (from 165) but I'm pretty sure it's down to lack of eating.
Life must go on!Posted October 25th, 2009 at 07:43 AM by stephbob 
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hey! im so sorry to hear about your fiance. its hard to get broken up with. i hear ya on that one. especially since he was everything to you. I (and the rest of us here) are proud of you for sticking to your guns and thinking of yourself and continuing with what you want!keep up the great work!!!Posted October 25th, 2009 at 08:17 AM by freshlysarah9 - Well done with the 160, but you need to eat Steph!!!
Also, even if your not eating, get plenty of water into your system please! ok?
Anyway Steph, look out for number one and stick around!Posted October 25th, 2009 at 08:51 AM by sarbirus
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