Afraid of hitting goal

[msnicksmom]

I have seen a very odd pattern in this weight loss journey and wondered if any of you have any thoughts.

I'll be going along at a nice .5-1 lb fluctuation in either direction for weeks. Then, I'll see a 2 lb whoosh. In a week, not a night. And then I'll cheat. I'm through OWL, not diligently adding spec new foods, just sticking w/in 50-60 carbs and definitely no sugar and VERY little white flour or rice.

But, once I see that whoosh, which NEVER has an explanation unless it's hormonal, I'll cheat, with alcohol, fruit juice, and desserts. I'll be back up a couple lbs of water weight for a couple days, be back at the low number, and then have several weeks of that little variance.

I'm 2.5 lbs from goal. What is my problem?

I wonder if I'm afraid of the challenge of maintaining?

Or am I afraid of not having anything to focus on once I hit goal, and then losing my motivation?

Any thoughts are welcome.

[boonie stomper]

I'm stopping by to wait for a good answer too; I've got fears like that also...

I want to tell you but I dont want you to get mad at me

ok well I will tell you...QUIT OVER THINKING THIS AND GET OVER IT!!! seriously...as long as you hang on to that crap you will keep wasting time!!!

you came here to make some changes ...and one of those has to be to move on from this kind of obsessive thinking ....trust me there is no shortage of shiit in life to keep that part of your mind occupied ....find it and let go of this one!!!

ok I am done ..please know this worked for me and you asked for something good OOOXXX

[Dolphin]

Originally Posted by Heidi3

....trust me there is no shortage of shiit in life to keep that part of your mind occupied ...

That is the TRUTH!!!! I love your quote Heidi!!!! I'm going to use this one for the rest of my life! Thanks.

[msnicksmom]

Or, am I still thinking of that cheat as my "reward"?

See, I really am confused. In another goalie post, I mentioned that I'm glad I'm fluctuating a bit and going slowly enough to experiment, and I AM.

Maybe my cheat is pushing the envelope, REALLY testing the waters.

Hm. Heidi may be right, I may just be over thinking the whole thing. I guess we'll see what the next couple weeks bring

Originally Posted by msnicksmom

Or, am I still thinking of that cheat as my "reward"?

See, I really am confused. In another goalie post, I mentioned that I'm glad I'm fluctuating a bit and going slowly enough to experiment, and I AM.

Maybe my cheat is pushing the envelope, REALLY testing the waters.

Hm. Heidi may be right, I may just be over thinking the whole thing. I guess we'll see what the next couple weeks bring

honey I am right on this one and you are overthinking it ...I would never have this insight if someone had not slapped me upside the head when I started this ...set a date for the end of this and hold yourself to it ...whatever your weight is on that date ..call it the end of this battle and start settling in to the fact you have succeeded

Originally Posted by Dolphin

That is the TRUTH!!!! I love your quote Heidi!!!! I'm going to use this one for the rest of my life! Thanks.

good!!!!

[Pie4me]

I have read some of your other posts and you sound a lot like me!
I think you are afraid to finally make goal because then you wouldn't
have anything else to strife for. That is exactly my problem and why
I gain and lose 10-20 pounds every time but I never let myself get
over 20 pounds hevier than I need to be.

I even get a little disappointed when I hit goal because it is kind of like
the "game" is over and I don't get to "play" anymore. Does that make
any sense? Do you feel any of these emotions I mentioned msnicksmom?

I know in my head that maintaining the weight is a lot harder in the long
run than loosing it...but for some reason I don't want to play that game
or I am afraid I will fail so I keep working at the same 10-20 pounds.
Luckily my weight has never gotten over 20 pounds from my goal weight.
I just won't let that happen...it is a mind game and I get tired of playing
but won't stop. Boy-this is hard to admit to myself. I usually ignore myself
and just go on. Maybe this will help someone and I can find some of my
own answers......


Pie4me
48 yoa
5'9 1/2
sw 168
cw 143
goal 148

[dreamof145]

For me...changing my life-style was a huge step. I was fat all my life. As my body began changing, I have had many fears. I believe it is a normal process that we all go through. Fears are what have fueled all great minds into taking action.

I still have anxiety over the way I've changed my attitude and my life. Anyone who says that changing your weight will not change your life is nuts. Everything about me changed. I have a new respect for myself and know for the first time in my life that I am responsible for everything I do.

Instead of pondering over it and giving power to the FAT WOMAN inside of me, when I have these thoughts -- I take action. By taking action, I mean I write my thoughts down in my journal. Then, I list the positive outcomes from my weight loss. I feel better, am healthier, look better, have more confidence in myself, wear nicer clothes, don't worry about what others are thinking of me every time someone glances at me, Have more energy, am more outgoing, have better relationships with family. All this is a result of shedding the weight.

I agree, don't overthink this. Negative thoughts are just an excuse that our minds use to stop us. I have made it a choice to not let anyone or anything stop me. (not even myself with my procrastinative thoughts) Write it out in your journal and then GO FORWARD. Losing the weight is not when the game of life ends. Losing weight improved my quality of life. I consider it a step in life that has made me stronger in everything else I do. It has given me strength to know that I am strong and I can do anything I put my mind to.

[Miss_Newbie]

But what is a person to do if they are afraid of seeing any success at all?