Are you afraid to be thin?

[Misnagid]

I think I am but I'm much less now, since I'm over 40 than I was before.

[determined2shrink]

I am scared to be thin. Good to know i am not the only one. When i lost 80 lbs on this WOE 8 years ago it made my life spin out of control. I lost most of my friends and i couldnt really trust that people liked me for who i was anymore. I noticed that people thought it was ok when i was a quiet/shy/sarcastic female when i was fat but when i lost weight they said i was stuck up for being that same way.

[Misnagid]

Hey, determined2shrink, no you are not alone.

I spent more than ten years of my life getting hit on endlessly by a variety of creepy guys, from 12 - 30 or even beyond. I was brought up to think that I could never be "mean" or rude to anyone, no matter how offensive they were to me. It put me in a terrible position, since I felt defenseless and as though I had very poor or non-existent boundaries. No matter how offensive anyone was being, I had to be sensitive to his feelings and not call him out for being the creep that he was. I think being overweight helped to make me invisible and definitely took away the unwanted attention.

Now I don't give a crap about hurting the feelings of obnoxious idiots and I think since I'm older, it will be a lot easier.

[RitaCeleste]

Attention I could do without. I find that dyeing my hair magic marker red helps. People don't expect me to be nice. They try to avoid ticking me off, and hopefully avoid me altogether. In the pic it was faded to auburn but I fixed it! I'm afraid I'll be thin and not notice and keep working on getting the next 10lbs off.

[focus83]

I think i am but its weird because ive never been thin. As you lose the weight your body changes, im scared of all the excess skin. From my largest til now my body has become so loose, i hate that! Its just like you dont know whats gonna happen so sometimes i think why bother dieting and just concentrate on enjoying now. But then i wake up and realise losing weight would make it so much easier to enjoy now than this size i am.

[RitaCeleste]

I worry about loose skin too. I've lost it slowly and it seems to be going okay so far though. My sister dropped 30lbs pretty quick and stopped to let her skin adjust. She's young and within a month it was tight again. But she never started back up, she's maintaining though. You can always slow down and give the skin a little more time to adjust. I had to slow down and give me time to adjust. The fear of loose skin, the fear of not knowing when to stop pretty much got me for awhile. And I think I just needed a break from dieting so hard. I kept watching my weight and half-way dieting same 10lbs up and down, up and down. heh I started at 235 and am 170 now, my butt got a little sag/crease to it, my breasts went down a little too, but I am 35 and hate excercise. So far I'm not baggin anywhere.