I win, I lose

[Jobu1977]

Last week Sunday (November 20) as my wife and I were watching the Poseidon adventure remake I got a phone call from my brother. He was calling to tell me that my father had died. Needless to say, we didn’t finish the movie.

My Dad was on a cruise with my stepmother and a few other family members. They were on their first port stop in Acapulco. While he was playing on the beach with one of my stepbrothers he complained of chest pains. To make a very long story short, he died of a massive heart attack about an hour later in the hospital. He was only 53 years old.

It’s been a long week for my family and I. Being only 28 myself, I never thought I would have to deal with one of my parents dying until I was well into my forties, if not fifties. I will miss my father tremendously. I loved him and respected him with every ounce of my being.

Since he was out of the country, we had to wait for a plane big enough to accommodate his casket. He didn’t get back to The States until Friday. We had his wake yesterday and his funeral today. It’s been a long emotion filled week, especially with Thanksgiving falling right in the middle of all this.

I didn’t cheat. Neither one piece of chocolate, nor donut crossed my lips. I held true to everything I have been doing since July. I even went so far as to make most of my own meal for my families Thanksgiving dinner. I didn’t have any pie. I didn’t have a single cookie. ****, I didn’t even have a cigarette (quit over 2 years ago). At the luncheon today, I had chicken and a few pieces of polish sausage. I didn’t even eat a potato. I did well. I think the only thing that worries me is that I had communion today. I’m not quite sure how to count that. I’m not quite sure if I care. If anyone knows how to count it though, please share.

Strangely enough I started on Alcohol just that very sunday. It was good timing I guess. It would have been really hard not to share a few drinks with my uncles and brothers. I wieghed myself tonite and I'm actually down half a pound from the previous week. So, Im guessing that It didnt stall me.

I’ve lost 62 pounds so far and I have no plan on stopping. I got many compliments from the family and friends that I haven’t seen in a while. It was nice to hear that. It helped. I wore a suit I bought for my honeymoon 3 years ago. It’s huge. Last May when a friend got married, I could barely fit in it. I couldn’t hardly sit down it was so tight in my waste. The suit coat itself would have popped the buttons if I left them done. This time though, the only things keeping my pants on were my suspenders. It was a nice feeling in the middle of a world of heartache.


It scares me to think that my father has died so young and his father died at the same age. I'm hoping that with all the I have accomplished I can stop that cycle. I really want to be around for my children. I really want to grow old with my wife.


I've really finally realized how much I have accomplished so far. I've really made myself proud and I'm sure that I've made my father proud too.

[Momtofour]

I'm so sorry for your loss. He was way too young.

I personally don't count communion at all. I only take enough wine to touch my lips and the I don't count the communion wafer at all. It is part of my faith and therefore, I don't worry about it.

Great job staying on plan through all of this!

[ttdriver]

Jobu, I am so very sorry for your loss. So very sorry. Gosh, my husband is 54 and I wouldn't know what to do if I lost him. Fortunately, he and I have been doing Atkins for 4 years and I hope that has helped us both to extend our lives.

What an outstanding job you have done staying on plan, considering the circumstances you have faced. Many people would have jumped ship and figured 'oh what the heck' and eaten everything in sight. But not you!! I am so very very proud of you. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I am certain without a single doubt that your father is indeed proud of you and he should be. You have found the secret to good health for good. You've accomplished SO MUCH!! I am so ecstatic for you!!

Bless your heart. You're in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. In memory of your father, take very good care of yourself. That's the greatest tribute you could ever give him.



Betty

[kellygirl2]

Jobu, My sympathy for the loss of your dear dad. Nothing can replace a father. Your words about your Dad say a great deal about what a wonderful man he was. He will always be with you.

[Chris]

Jobu, I am truly so sorry to hear this. What a sad, terrible bolt out of the blue this must have been for you. You and yours will be in my prayers, tonight.

We're all very proud of you for managing to stay so true to the program throughout these sad events. Many, many would not have had that fortitude.

Don't worry about communion -- not at all! As 2Big often reminds us, food for the soul never has to be counted.

Bless you!

[Laurenfra]

At 27 I lost both of my parents. My prayers to you.
You should be proud of your success, eating off plan would have done nothing to help your grief. Staying on plan helps, it reminds you who is in charge. You!

As for communion, someone somewhere once said count as 5 carbs. I dont count it. I figure God takes care of it.

[cleochatra]

I lost my mom at 13, my dad at 27, so I can sympathize. My prayers go out to your family in this time. {{{Jobu}}}

[Yoly1001]

I am so sorry to hear of you loss and so increadibly proud of you for sticking to your confictions. I can't imagine the pain of losing a parent but know that I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You should be proud of the fact that you are putting your health as a major priority in your life, I know your father is proud of you, wherever he may be.

[Sheshy]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Jobu. Sending thoughts and prayer to you and your family.

[Lady_Hawke]

I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad. I am so proud of you for sticking it out and living the Atkins way during such a difficult and emotional time in your life.