Calling international rescue

[big_bad_john]

I need help! (erm hang on maybe I should rephrase that....)

Ysee I got a saboteur in my home..

Afraid the truth is my wife keeps trying to trip up my weight loss...

She doesn't believe in atkins and thinks only weight watchers can help the overweight yet she's been going for 10 years, her mother for 30 and their bmi increases by a point each year! (Her bmi is 35 and her mother ...well don't get me started now....)

I caught her a few times trying to sneak sugar into my food over the last couple of weeks so I've started to make sure I only eat food I prepared myself etc.

Tonight she's going to bake a chocolate cake to torment me. Sounds weird to call it torment but I'm sure some of you know exactly what I mean... I know but she's hoping I'll weaken and give in...

Anyone else had anyone trying to upset there weight loss? Anyone got any coping mechanisms to deal with it?

Looks like at this rate I'll be spending my evenings street walking..(Erm hang on maybe I should rephrase that too! Double quick!)

Any help or advice on this would be appreciated seeing as its really brass monkeys outside tonight and I'm prone to frost bite these days...failing that a breakfats recipe good for induction that doesnt include eggs or tuna may help...

Oh well I guess my wagons rolling along even if the indians are shooting arrows at it...

[Elizellen]

Hi John
I havent got any strategies for avoiding sneaked-in sugar, except for saying keep on eating food you have prepared yourself instead.

An easy breakfast is a few slices of ham with cheese on top and rolled up, eaten with a few cherry tomatoes or some celery to get some veggies in.

As to the chocolate cake torture - make sure you have plenty of 'legal' high fat snacks available to eat instead of succumbing.

Good luck with the lowcarbing under fire!

[ladyinred]

I'm sorry John. Have you asked her why she doesn't support you and respect your decision? Is she insecure about you losing weight or something?

I would do as Elizellen suggests. BTW, is this a special Weight Watcher's cake she is making? Ummmm, there may be a reason why her BMI is increasing despite years of WW meetings. We're here for you. Please don't freeze anything off tonight.

[big_bad_john]

I think she's insecure... I'm a good looking guy when I'm slim and before I put on weight she used to have kittens if she saw me talking to other women...

Tried talking to her she just said: "I need sugar if you don't like it don't eat any of it. whats the matter..you afraid?"

I wont tell you what her mother said....oy vey!!

[2big4mysize]

do a Dr Phil pn her. Ask her to be part of yoour Atkins support network. Tell her you need her help doing your Atkins so you two can grow old together healthy.

Then ask her to please read yur DANDR so she will be able to help you avoid the refined processed foods that made you fat in the first place when you weaken.tell her you need her to be your biggest fan, your support whrenyou are weak and your stanch defendere should anybody else try to sway you from your Atkinds program.

Tell her when she fixes cake because of your lack of self control you feel you will cheat on your plan and then feel worthlesscause you couldn't maintain your self control ( that should hook her cause now she feels more powerful then you) and would like her to help by keeping you from those high carb high cal foods in the future, at least until you get stronger and can control your eating.

Then ask her to take a walk with you as your exercise buddy too. that will give you boith some exercise and some quality time together too.

if she loves you that should have her throwing the cake down the garbage disposal!

Happy low carbing.

[Analog6]

It's hard, isn't it? How can she really think a chocolate cake is more healthy than protein and vegetables?

For the breakfast, bacon and grilled tomatoes is nice, or bacon and mushroom, or replace the bacon with minute steak or ham or even sinful smoked salmon for a real treat.

[sunflowergrl]

Take that cake and throw it out!!! It isn't good for either of you!!!! I can't imagine that she is being so selfish!!! I am sorry that seems harsh, but really!!! I think she is worried that if you lose weight, she will feel like a failure because she can't lose any. Marriage is about love and support, and she needs to support you!!! Sneaking sugar in your food??
I am not sure what to say about that!!! Anyway, WE are here to support you, so GOOD LUCK and you can do it!!!!!

[teejay]

I think that maybe you should take some time and talk to your wife. Ask her to help you, instead of hindering you. Ask her to read the book. Ask that she just keep and open mind about why you are eating and living the Atkins way. Ask her to show you just HOW weight watchers is helping her. Tell her that she may feel that weight watchers is the way to go for her, but you don't feel that it is the right way for you. You are individual people, you are not clones. If having a heart to heart with her doesn't work, I would suggest some couple's therapy or marriage counseling. There is a big lack of communication and lack of trust and understanding here.

Let us know how things are going, and stick to what is right for you.

TJ

[big_bad_john]

Things are better today now a new day has dawned.

She baked the cake, She and her mother ate the cake, All of the cake.

Her diet broke, mine did not, with cold cuts and cheese, my atkins diet was so hot.

A new day has dawned and both of them feel bad, I'm another pound lighter and feeling so glad

Goodness triumphs and the bad are punished!! You should see how clever she feels this morning after pigging out on carbs!

I'm off for my morning walk soon whilst the guilty slouch around in thier self imposed carb ****!

bet there won't be any more cakes baked for a while. I predict a guilt ridden week of lettuce and starvation ahead for them and a week of cheese, eggs, steak and chicken for me.

[Eleonore]

John,
I agree iwth most of what have been said here.
I think she is too insecure, a good talk, getting her something nice, taking her out or showing anyway how much you love her will calm her down.
My bf eats sweets all the time but even he, is very careful with the things I eat.