Setting yourself up for rebellion

[MommaGlass]

You are at a function, or dinner with friends. Someone offers you a nibble or two of an item not on plan. How do you word your refusal? "No thanks, I CAN'T eat that" "Thanks, but I am NOT ALLOWED to eat that" "No, it's a FORBIDDEN food"
Only to have a response like. "oh, I could never do that diet like you, I can't be forbidden to eat such-in-such" And then you think, I don't want to be forbidden too. And the bite happens. Just to prove you are not on restriction.

Time and again I caught myself giving my food choices a negative twist as to why I wasn't going to consume something. All my life, I have been one to go against rules. Rebel against set standards. I was setting myself up for a big ol' Rebellion of the Carb Kind! I had to reword my declines and fast!! Because I was "allowed" to have anything I wanted. Nothing is forbidden. I can eat whatever is offered me. But I shouldn't expect to lose weight. I can eat a donut-mashed potato-ice cream-and rice casserole if I so desire. But I better bust out my big girl drawers again, 'cause I will need them! It's a choice. I choose to not eat high carb content food. I know that, basicly, I am allergic to high carb meals. My butt and thighs swell to monster proportions when I use them in my daily menus.
Now, I decline with "Thank you so much for the offer, but I DON'T eat those." or a simple "No thanks" because there is really no need to give an explaination.
And I keep in mind, that the "don't" isn't forever. I will again partake of french fries or ice cream sundaes. But it will be a few fries with my cheeseburger salad. Not the Wendy's Biggie Fries with a double bun cheeseburger washed down with a 32 oz Coke and a Frosty for the ride home. It will be a small sundae shared with a friend, after a good workout and when I am at a new slim size. Not the double banana split with extra whipped topping (I say topping, 'cause we KNOW it ain't cream!).
It's about choice and keeping a good mental outlook on that choice. I have not been forbidden anything. I CHOOSE to be smaller and that is the road I will walk. But that road is paved with vegetables, unstaurated fats and as many protein paving stones as I want. Each one of those steps take me to a place a want to be. I WILL arrive, slim and with a positive attitude. Because arriving with a postive attitude will be very important to maintaining that "happy place" weight. If I allow myself to be "forbidden" until I get there, I know when the gates of slimness open, there could be a carb stampede of the worse kind and I will be making a weightloss journey all over again within a few years. And THAT, my friends, is forbidden!

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[MotherOfGizmo]

Yep, that's right. And its not that you're "not allowed to eat" whatever, its that you "choose not eat it!

[ronnie114]

Sooooo smart!! Not only did you turn things around in your own head, but your answers to that "here just a bite" no longer set you up for people to be able to persuade you. You are no longer leaving the door ajar for people to peek in and mess with your resolve. No means no now, not maybe. You are refusing from a position of power now and not a position of "well I am not allowed... until you can convince me that I deserve a bite."
Way to go and keep it up! Also thanks for the insight.

[G-Mom]

Well said, my friend!

[Elizellen]

Great reasoning Momma Glass!!

[MommaGlass]

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[Smallerizing]

Wow. That reminded me of what I USED to say, I just about forgot it and it worked so well!

"No thanks, I have what I want." (Out loud voice.)

"I'm having better health, good lipid panel results, better mental acuity, and even losing a few pounds. That's what I WANT. Why would I want a few moments of __________ taste in my mouth in exchange for THAT?" --(Inside my head voice.)

Thanks for putting the element of "rebellion" into perspective. Well, I'm just going to personally "rebel" against well-meaning but grossly misinformed people trying to sabotage my CHOICE.