Have you had the half-way funk?

[Jerzaka]

I've officially made it to the half way mark. I know I should be jumping for joy, but I'm not. I'm not satisfied. You know, I've only had ONE person so far notice my weight loss. <shrug> And yes, I do get out of the house.

I'm not looking for any cat calls, but c'mon, give a girl something! This is one of the reasons I put the weight on. I swear, I'm one of those girls who can put a little bit of weight on and it look like ton. I was told I shrunk to a whooping 5'2 & 3/8's at my annual pap. Yay! NOT! Anyway, when I did put a little bit of weight on and I did look like a ton, I got the mentality, what the ****? I'm already so fat - what's the difference?

Today's just not a good day. Apparently, I've got the funk BAD!

[boonie stomper]

How about posting a picture here before & after?


To heck with all those self-interested people out there that don't give a f*** about anyone's feelings. People at ADBB can sypathize as we are often in the same situation. Let us see your progress losing that ton of weight!

[dreamof145]

I think that we all reach a point when we know that the program works, we've lost a bit of weight, we are feeling extremely spunky about our accomplishment. This is the point in which we must once again seriously evaluate our reasons for wanting to lose weight and update our plans. It is a dangerous place to reach cause you can become over-confident and start adding carbs and eliminating he exercise and water thinking that the back-slide won't happen.

Many of our friends who've come to this fork in the road and chose to alter or go off their WOE -- have come back to heed warnings that the weight will come back and the benefits that we've been enjoying will reverse to misery and weight gain. Sounds like your mind is playing games with you. When I had these moments of self-doubt -- that is when I needed the ADBB the most. I'd read my journal and read/talk to others who could boost my moral and make me believe in myself again.

It doesn't matter that others don't or won't recognize your weight loss. I lost almost 60 pounds before I started getting compliments. I have lost 115 pounds now and there are still some who haven't said a word to me. That is their problem. Not yours. You are doing this for you. You know you have shrunk. You know you feel better and look better and you are healthier. It doesn't matter if others recognize what you've done. We all want to be loved, hugged and told how great we look....and that is why the ADBB is so important. We all understand what you are going through and we will be here to give you the support and encouragment to go on. Have you slacked on your exercise? Exercise always made me feel great about myself and kept me motivated.

There will be days when you are depressed and feeling less confident. You would have those days regardless of how much you've lost or what you are doing. That is part of life.

I think you've done fantastic. Make your plan of action to keep going and keep getting better. You are worth the effort. We all want to see you succeed. Keep us posted on your progress and if you need extra hugs and support from your friends here, we will be glad to help. (We understand and care)

[GiGi Lafoo]

You want me to tell you your butt looks great and make you have a great day?

I have the Halfway Funk too! Last time I did Atkins it seems I had tiny hips, a flat stomach and thin legs in just a couple of weeks. I know I don't have the bulky look that I had 11-12 lbs and three weeks ago but we're going on vacation in less than three weeks and I want the skimpy little clothes NOW!

I can really relate. I am 5'4" , have a birdbone frame and gaining 20 lbs looks like 50 on me it seems. Patience is hard but we're a lot closer now to the goal than we were!

[boonie stomper]

There is also a bright side to your funk. At least is isn't a half-way stall or fall! In previous half-way points I've either quit because of hitting a persistent plateau at an old metabolic setpoint, or let other people's comments go to my head and let them talk me into quitting. Maybe lack of people complimenting you could motivate you to go the rest of the way.

[Atkid]

I also have the half way funk blues.....la,la,la! Unfortunately, I am only half way to my first goal, still have another 20 after that one.

[2big4mysize]

so is your glas 1/2 full or 1/2 empty. if you are focusing on goal forget you have lost andy weight so you don't congrat yourself on the work you already did and stay focused on the work ahead.

Some folk are afraid to say anything when folk lose weight now adays cause they think we got cancer and didn't want to lose it. I know once the cat was out of the bag many folk told me they had that fear so they noticed but didn't say anything to me about it.
Congrats on the great job you have done morphing your body to the healthier smaller you.

[staziaw]

I, too, was in the "Half Way Funk" - 40 pounds down, 40 pounds to go. While I'm happy my body had a chance to adjust to this weight (about a month!), it was time to rededicate myself to the cause. After some slips and slides off the wagon, I restarted Induction, for two weeks only, and then up the rungs of OWL. I put my scale in the closet and won't weigh in until June 26th. While I'm really proud of what I have accomplished, I realized that I need the same dedication to keep moving forward.

As for other folks noticing, I really don't worry about it. It's about how I feel!! If people notice, well, heck, that's a bonus!

You have done so beautifully on your journey! Keep up the good work!

Stacy

[Jerzaka]

I've got to post more! You guys are great - you really are. I honestly don't have any pictures from my highest weight. We always use a digital and I would secretly delete any evidence of my ever growing weight problem.

Now that I think about it, not only did I get rid of my pictures, I also got rid of the full length mirror in our bedroom. Coincidence? I think not! I simply couldn't stand to look at myself. Unfortunately now is not much different. I still don't want to look at myself. I hate what I see.

The thing is, when I'm at my normal weight, I still feel fat! I mean, I "know" technically I'm not with my clothes on. But, naked, alone in front of the mirror - I know what I am. People however, almost invariably comment "Oh you're sooo thin", or "You can eat anything you want", oh and, "Don't lose any more weight"... That's when I respond with something like, "It's all smoke and mirrors, honey!" That always gets a quick laugh and I can get away from the uncomfortable feeling I get when people talk about me being thin. I don't know why everyone feels free to comment on my weight when I'm thin.

Funny - I can't take the comments or the lack of them. Go figure!

I've got to get a hold of this BEFORE I get my weight down and you're ALL right, this is the best place to do that. Thanks for letting me vent.

[boonie stomper]

Originally Posted by Jerzaka

People however, almost invariably comment "Oh you're sooo thin", or "You can eat anything you want", oh and, "Don't lose any more weight"...
Funny - I can't take the comments or the lack of them. Go figure!

I know EXACTLY what you mean! If you are not in total control of yourself, you're damt if they do OR if they don't say that stuff. lol - last time mom did it (last weekend), I politely reminded her that years ago when I weighed 40 pounds LESS than I do now, she had suggested I was "letting myself go" and needed to lose weight.

She's still going to try and sabotage my eating when we go on vacation together, though. I MUST NOT GIVE IN!!!