Why do people get offended when you say "no thanks"?!

[jcapulet]

My coworker went around and offered everyone fresh strawberries. As I'm not on the berries rung, I declined with "thats ok, thanks". She went all into a fit about she's not offerring me anything anymore...don't know if she's joking (one of those hard to tell) but I think she was offended that I declined.



I guess it's more polite to accept the food and then just throw it away when no one's looking.

[Miss Phode]

What an idiot!

[ladyinred]

Well, obviously she's very insecure and has very low self-esteem. She transferred your rejection of the berries onto herself, thus, taking the berry-rejection personally.

You could say "it's not you, it's your berries". I don't know. That's kind of an odd response (on her part - not my response, of course - lol)

[sallyseachange]

Hmmmm.... she obviously never heard 'live and let live'.

[Hudson]

Take the berries and quietly offer them to someone else later. Or maybe "Oh, those look beautiful, but I can't have them".

[Miss Phode]

I remember my grandma crying at dinner once because I didn't want to eat her stupid ham. I could understand grandma crying if I said "Hey granny, I hate you", but because I refused to eat her dead pig? Ummmm...whatever

[2big4mysize]

could be she brought the berries not to share but as a means to ingratiate herself with everybiody else and since fresh strawberries are out ofd season now she thought the extra effort whe went to would go a long way towards her goals but not taking them didn't let her accomplish that with you.

[Desertthorn]

Folks are just weird sometimes. Don't do like she did and take it personally, she is Okay

[jcapulet]

Thanks everyone for your thoughts! I myself used to go around and offer everyone candy or cookies-but if someone declined I had no problem with it. Mainly it was just to be friendly and boost morale a little (not that it needs boosting, but you know what I mean).

But sheesh I never expected everyone to accept the item.

[jcapulet]

Originally Posted by ladyinred

Well, obviously she's very insecure and has very low self-esteem. She transferred your rejection of the berries onto herself, thus, taking the berry-rejection personally.

You could say "it's not you, it's your berries". I don't know. That's kind of an odd response (on her part - not my response, of course - lol)

I agree...and how silly does that sound, that she took the berry-rejection personally...silly but probably true!