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__________________ ~*~Clare~*~ ![]() |
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| Are you still with the same guy? I just lurked at the time but I remember that he wasn't exactly a "by the book" type of guy. I hope he changed or else you do not let him influence you. Welcome back! |
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| well now that I have actually lost the weight and stuck with a diet plan for over 6 months, he is beginning to understand that this isn't just something I am doing for the moment and that I am serious and committed about it now. I was with Atkins also, but that only lasted a month or two...and then I gained 50lbs. Also when I was on Atkins it was a lot harder for him to deal with I think because I found it harder to find things to eat when we went out and stuff. He has really changed, he is actually eating healthier now himself, I guess I have been a good influence on him! He stopped drinking sodas, and while he isn't really on a diet, he will eat lean cuisines sometimes and doesn't pig out like he used to. I think my influence on him has caused him to lose about 15 pounds himself. He is slow to come around, but I am very patient with him because I know if you don't WANT to diet, you're not going to. But maybe when I am 130lbs and have a rock hard bikini body he will change his tune As far as the relationship goes...at the beginning of last year I had told him I had had enough...and left for a week. I have NEVER left him before like this, and I think it finally made him realize some things...and I was prepared to stay gone, he came over to my parents house where I was staying and apologized to me, and I had made him a list of about 8 or 9 things that I didn't like about our relationship, and he promised me he would change them. The last thing on the list said "if things go well for about 6 months, I want to get married. I am tired of living with you and not feeling like you are fully committed to our relationship". I was very cautious at first, and didn't put my entire heart back into the relationship, but in doing this I allowed myself to see the way things really were and not be deluded...I was absolutely amazed at the amount of respect he began showing me and the profound changes that he made, because it showed me how much he really did care about me and our relationship together. I think it took me leaving and finally sticking up for myself to show him that he can't get away with treating me the way he did, and I think he respects me more that I am showing the world how much I love myself. We got engaged in September, and I am nothng but happy with him right now. Anyways, sorry for the novel, but that's the story and that's the way things went down! He even bought me a gym membership for my birthday, and soon he is going to pay for my pilates classes
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| Oh congratulations on your engagement! I'm glad you worked things out with him. And for what it's worth, I "left" my husband too back before we were engaged/married. Packed right up and went to my parent's house. You look great and welcome back!
__________________ 281/210.6/180 25f Old mini-goal: 215--MET! New mini-goal: 209 President's Champions: Gold Medal; 16% of Platinum One entire year on plan as of January 15, 2007 Vigilance, not perfection. My Stat Journal |