weight loss and divorce

[Creek]

If you were my best friend, I'd ask you to get counseling. I'd also ask you to wait at least six months before you made a final decison.

First step - counseling for your low self esteem
Second step - wait six months before deciding

If you do those two things, you will be in a stronger place emotionally, and if you go through with the divorce, you are gonna need stability and strength for your children, because it is devastating to them.

[Mothercooter]

Yeah, I definately want to seek profession opinions of the matter and am not rushing into anything.

[LivinLowCarb2008]

With all due respect, abuse pretty much changes the picture really. He's gotten upset at her, and taken her cell phone, etc. If she was my best friend, I would want protection for her as well as she decided to leave. In her words...

He was controlling, abusive,Just when I had the courage to leave him, put him in jail and get out ifh feels Im slipping away he takes my keys and cell and hides them or something, anything so he feels he is in control of the situation.hour talking to my friend one night and he called me every 2 mins accusing me of not being where I said I was and being with some guy or doing drugs, you name it. So of course after i got home I got my phone log checked, my cell taken and my blankets thrown down the stairs because I "didnt deserve to sleep upstairs with the family"

These are the actions of an abusive person. It always escalates, and does not get better unless the abuser gets help. She has small little children that might see this behavior and that's not good. i am not sure how much thought this takes to leave him. Take care

[SueSue1212]

In the first post you did not mention abuse, and if you re-read mine you will see that I said if he is abusive--- GET OUT FAST! Physically restraining someone is abuse. Control is a precursor to violence. I have been married for 20 years and if my Husband were to ever try and control me he would hit the curb really hard, and then I would back the truck up. I can not believe that women put up with men that are controling and abusive for as long as they do. I did not mean to sound insensitive in my post, but at first you made him sound like a nice guy that you just could not give a chance, but if he really is abusive then other post are correct, GET OUT FAST!