I joined a TOPS and

[susan423]

I hate it. I turned in my membership card last night and almost sorry I did.
We live in a small town and I've been having trouble making friends so that's one of the reasons I wanted to join. That and the in person support I thought would be nice. Well, counting me, there are 4 members (and 2 of those members are at goal). Last night was my 3rd week and I really wanted to get to know the members. I asked the leader how much weight she had lost. She quickly changed the subject. The other lady was talking about a treadmill and I was telling her about mine and how much fun it is and she picked up a magazine like she didn't care so I shut up The leader gets literature in the mail and she reads it to us about people that lost a lot of weight (if I wanted to read inspiration stories about people I don't know, I could come on here ) Then she was sent stretching instructions so last night we got up and did some stretching. The meeting lasted about 25 minutes. The first day I was there I had told her that I lost 40 pounds last year and she said "That's great, You'll have to tell us how you did it". I was never asked about again and had the feeling no one cared anyway.
I was just hoping for a little bit more opening up from the gals (especially considering the small group). I just discovered another tops group in the next town over. I'm going to go to that one next Tuesday and see if I like it better. Even though it's a 10 mile drive.
Does it depend on the members or is this how all Tops meetings are run?

[hrgillespie]

Susan I have never been to a TOPS group myself but I have a friend who goes to one regularly here in Vermont and she loves it. She is always talking about how they share recipies, ideas, stories ect ...... I think you may have found a bad group and possibly will enjoy the one in the next town much better! Give it a try and let us know!

Heidi

[SunnySmile501]

I've belonged to TOPS from Stuarts Draft, VA to Key West, FL. The one I belonged to in Stuarts Draft was wonderful. We had about 20 to 30 active members. It was a lot of fun and very supportive. The one in Key West was a joke with about 7 members, all catty and very negative about any suggestion about how other TOPS clubs inspire and support the members in their weight loss journey. I went a total of three times and then never went back.

I have belonged to the one in Fishersville, VA and in Staunton, VA--they were better than Key West, but not by much. I finally just stopped going. They really had a problem when I started doing Atkins. I wasn't going to lie about it, so it was useless for me to continue to pay dues and go to meetings.

[Chicklady]

Dummy here Umm, what is TOPS?

[iamran]

Chicklady, I believe that it stands for take pounds off sensibly. There was a local tops group a few years back in my hometown and if I remember correctly it stood for that.

[iamran]

I meant take off pounds sensibly! Sorry!

[susan423]

Yes, iamran, that is correct.
Thanks, Sunny. I guess it depends on the chapter. I'm looking forward to checking out the other one on Tuesday. Then I just found out there's another one just a few miles down the road from that one.. I'll keep trying. But if it doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be.