who are you going to show off your weight loss to?

[keriann_forgoodthistime]

Originally Posted by tfek70

I have my 20 year reunion this summer. While most of the people there will have no idea I was ever fat, it will be nice to be fitter than most. I graduated in 89 and wrestled 126. I joined the navy after highschool and haven't been back except for a week here and there every couple of years.

I actually had my 10 year reunion last year and I weighed about what I do right now (183) at the time...now in the past 10 years i've gained/lost so many times i've lost count - BUT in HS i graduated at about 160 (after losing 55 pounds IN high school)...and so i was ONLY 23 pounds heavier than what i was at IN high school...well - i went and let me tell you - EVERYONE there - yes after only 10 years - WOW. awhat they say is totally true - alllll the skinny girls were FAT!!!!

and - actually - while again i was about 23 pounds over my goal at that time - one of the girls i couldn't stand from HS - said the absolute NICEST thing to me and I will remember it always. She (who had gained weight herself) - told me I looked "absolutely beautiful".

I can not tell you what that meant to me. and that was even 23 pounds HEAVIER than where i was a few years ago when I'd lost 60 pounds and was at my lightest of 160!

but i totally understand what the original poster is talking about when you want other people to notice.

i would say - now - as far as anyone i'd like to see me lose weight?...well - i want to be skinny (well, back to 160) by thanksgiving for my fiance's family. obviously they didn't know me growing up - but the past 2 years that they've seen me they saw me at about 195 both times. but I only really identify myself with that 160 lb woman and THAT is who I want them to see and meet. (especially his crass a$$ of an uncle who called me fat when we first met)

[EverLosing]

Originally Posted by keriann_forgoodthistime

i would say - now - as far as anyone i'd like to see me lose weight?...well - i want to be skinny (well, back to 160) by thanksgiving for my fiance's family. obviously they didn't know me growing up - but the past 2 years that they've seen me they saw me at about 195 both times. but I only really identify myself with that 160 lb woman and THAT is who I want them to see and meet. (especially his crass a$$ of an uncle who called me fat when we first met)

Awww! What a mean man! I'd be horrified! I have the feeling you acted like a lady and didn't give him what he deserved but I would've let him hear my fat mouth!! Who here doesn't know what you mean though about identifying ourselves only with the best we ever were?? YEARS of avoiding mirrors that might undo the tales we tell ourselves about the extra pounds that are there, that we don't want to acknowledge. You'll get there before Thanksgiving, girl!!

[keriann_forgoodthistime]

Originally Posted by EverLosing

Awww! What a mean man! I'd be horrified! I have the feeling you acted like a lady and didn't give him what he deserved but I would've let him hear my fat mouth!! Who here doesn't know what you mean though about identifying ourselves only with the best we ever were?? YEARS of avoiding mirrors that might undo the tales we tell ourselves about the extra pounds that are there, that we don't want to acknowledge. You'll get there before Thanksgiving, girl!!

hahahaha no actually i didn't - it's funny cuz after i actuallly talked back to him, we started to banter like that and we got along good - he's the kind that you have to dish it back to him. it's all good. plus he's just a nasty old man anyways (seriously old fat truck driver) i know i shouldn't be mean as he IS dan's mother's brother and i really like his mother - but yeaaaaaaaahhhh while i can "deal" with him - i'd rather not - course, it is HIS house that we go to for thanksgiving and i like his wife - but he's just a(n) *****
but yeah - i just want them all to know me "skinny" :P

[ikilledrafe]

Originally Posted by keriann_forgoodthistime

but i totally understand what the original poster is talking about when you want other people to notice.

i would say - now - as far as anyone i'd like to see me lose weight?...well - i want to be skinny (well, back to 160) by thanksgiving for my fiance's family. obviously they didn't know me growing up - but the past 2 years that they've seen me they saw me at about 195 both times. but I only really identify myself with that 160 lb woman and THAT is who I want them to see and meet. (especially his crass a$$ of an uncle who called me fat when we first met)

OOOOH want me to beat up your hubby's uncle? that's meanie!!! and you are very very gorgeous! I'm glad someone understands that im not being MEAN vengeful. I think i'm being human!

[ikilledrafe]

Originally Posted by Kathi22

Oh good question! I am very in between on this. I definitely want to show my loss off to myself in the mirror as I enter the plus size store and go for the smaller size. I hate clothes shopping because nothing ever fits or I look terrible! I am pretty successful for my age, and my DH's social group (which is one huge small town click) has never accepted me - partly because of my professional success and partly because I don't indulge in the drinking and gossiping about one another. They always have a lot to say about me, but the 2 consistent things are I am too opinionated and I am "f'in huge." The opinionated part will never change, but the "f'in huge" will, and is, and for this I kind of want to just go to one of their clicky small minded events and just walk by with my snobby skinny self lol.

That's awesome! I'm cheering for you!!! I'm known for speaking my mind. I told my boss when she hired me that my best and worst attribute is my mouth. I think you should be proud of that! WOMAN POWER! and it looks like you are reaching the end of your weight loss! congrats!!!

[SpanishRapunzel]

My husband is really slender (140 lb @5'8") so .... I just want to weigh less than him!