Does anyone else try to sabotage themselves?

[MarinWallace]

Sometimes I get freaked out by all the changes and start kinda sabotaging myself. It's like I'm afraid to be thinner.

[2big4mysize]

are you hiding from some emotional issue in your "fat coat"? is so there is a topic pinned in the women's forum called psychological obesety you might want to look at.

[barelynangel]

I do

Sometimes I get freaked out by all the changes and start kinda sabotaging myself. It's like I'm afraid to be thinner.

I use to have a boyfriend who would literally knock food out of my mouth if he thought i was gaining weight. Now, lol it would be nice to have that kind of "willpower" around lol but i also use my weight to keep myself from being with the Man i want to be with. I won't see him again until i am comfortable. If something happens where i get upset with him or something, i tend to go off plan and then push back when we get to see each other again.

So yes, i sabotage myself and utilize my weight in a very bad way because i am hurting not only myself but someone i care so much about and want to have a relationship with. I have to get past the voice in my head going, if you are heavy you can't see him so he can't hurt you like the last one did.

Yes, i know its psychological so please no psychologist help thanks lol. Its something i am working on, and its something i will conquer i just need to do so in my own time. What you may want to do is write down when this happens so you can see if there is a pattern forming so you may be able to cut it off at the pass. If its overwelming, maybe cut back on some of the changes until you feel in control again. If that makes sense.

But, yes, i believe many people sabotage themselves... and i am one of them.

angel

[2big4mysize]

journaling your emotions when you are eating and also who is with you and what events are going on is a big help as barelynangel pointed out.

Glad you are aware and working on yours barelynangel

[cleochatra]

I am not sabotaging myself with food, because I just can't go back to eating bad foods now that I've been educated!

Do I beat myself up, berate myself and enjoy general feelings of worthlessness?

Natch! I'm a woman!

Still, it seems odd that people who have stomach surgery get counselling to deal with their inner demons and we really don't have that same psychological counselling which might help train us for our changes as they happen. And we lose weight just as quickly as any surgery patient would!

So here we are, still dysfunctional, and without counselling. Maybe I need a good therapist. Maybe we all do.

[jhhayes]

I've found that I do this too and even though I know I do it and try to be on the lookout for it, it still creeps up and bites me every time! I'm just coming off one such incident and I gained 20 lbs of the 70 I had lost! Getting back on track though and hoping to work through these issues once and for all!

[bodypumper]

I do the same thing. Up and down. Thankfully when the dust clears I'm usually down a bit. But I go down 10 up 9. Down 10 up 9. It is so frustrating. It seems that the more I try the more I screw up. I just can't figure it out. It starts at supper and watch out. Also, why are some days so easy and some so hard. I can't find a common denominator. It's like I'm 2 people.

Sue

[JordanII]

This is what I have discovered the hard way re:

"doing great one day and then the next day after supper the gnawing urge to eat hits which cannot be denied and so you eat and blow it once more"......

By using the FITDAY charting of the food I eat each day, I discovered that I cannot go below a daily 1000 calorie deficit. Caloric deficit = the number calories used for BMR, daily living activities, and exercise - (minus) the number of calories ingested. If I do, I end up blowing it two or three days later with a binge.

I am at the "last 10 pounds" stage and my body will not tolerate a loss of more than an average 1 pound per week.

I know that CALORIES is not a word that is used very much in discussions on this Forum, BUT, the bottom line is that the less you have to lose the more your body resists letting go of the "survival padding", or the last 10 pounds.

Our bodies are hard wired genetically for survival. In order to get to the lean and mean stage you must constantly work at it. This is not a state your body is willing to accept readily. Your body will fight to keep a bit of spare fat to protect itself in case of hard times.....like illness or Winter for our pre historic ancestors.

Look around on the body building internet sites and see the great (and sometimes down right dangerous) lengths people go to get to that "cut and buffed" look. Like I said , not a condition accepted by your body readily.

Bottom line, you may be trying to lose too quickly and that is why you are bouncing up and down like a yo-yo. Don't be in a hurry to lose all the weight as soon as possible cause your body will sabotage you.

Do your own charting and determine what your maximum daily caloric deficit is, don't go below it and then you will find that the sabotaging behaviour drops out.

[kellygirl2]

I see a change in my relationships now that I am losing weight. My body change is a scary thing for some of my loved ones, as well as me. It changes some relationships once we are becoming "attractive" or a "threat" by being on a track to a normal size.

Some people try to tempt me with foods "just one bite", I think to sabotage me because they are scared a little by my changes as a result of my weight loss, confidence as well as physically. I also get scared sometimes and want to sabotage myself so things remain the same and not rock the boat with those I care about.

I am losing weight because I want to feel good, to move good, to live the rest of my life happy with how I feel. We deserve to feel good. We deserve to move good. Those around us who love us will celebrate our accomplishments of achieving these goals, just as we will/would for them. To sabatoge myself is to keep the best of me from those I love.

[Rouge]

Re: Does anyone else try to sabotage themselves?

Sometimes I get freaked out by all the changes and start kinda sabotaging myself. It's like I'm afraid to be thinner.

Oh definately, I don't even know why I do it sometimes when I'm not hungry or anything I'll still eat just because it 'looks good'. I know that I'm not supposed to but at the time I just can't remember the feeling I'll get the next morning. :sadblinky